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WHAT IS FAMILY CONSULTATION?

Family consultation is very difficult to describe. It aims to find solutions and unlocks family problems. When we were born, we were each given responsibility for our family karma. Family consultation helps us to more easily comfort so many difficulties. These workshops have helped a great many people up to now.

Miscariages, abortions, victims of violence, emotionless relationships, who lost parents early in life, travmatic deaths, murders, suicides and missing people: how these things affect our lives, how they cause illnesses ( such as heart attacks, cancer, addictions, dysfunctional marriages ) or where these problems are coming from.

To be able to see all of these problems, family consultation is an unbelievable workshop.

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THERAPIST HALİSE BAYDAR

Halise Baydar, who has been giving family therapy in Berlin and İstanbul, lived in Germany from the age of sixteen. She became depressed in 1980 and started to research Freudian Psychoanalysis and studied it for three years. During that time, she met Annemary Assman, who worked with the body's energy fields and Halise Baydar started her first spiritual journey with her. During the week, she tried to understand herself using the Freudian framework, at the weekends, she contiuned energy workshops with Assman. After that, she went to Maria Schmejkall, who was giving Jungian therapy for two years. The more she looked inside herself, the more she wanted to learn and she attended energy seminars from various teachers. During this training she was introduced to Shamanism and started to use it. Since then, she realised that it is not always possible to find solutions in your mind. Than, she was trained in NLP by Dr. Stolzenburg for a year. She worked with the therapist Dr. Dorothea Stumfeld who was working with the emotional body. Since that time, she has built a very close relationship with her. Multiple energy practioner Osho's student Michael Bannert was also one of her teachers. After all of this training, her eyes were opened to the spritüel dimensions of life.

You can't find a solution to everything in your mind.





PENDULUM TRAINING



We can begin to tap into knowledge that was previously unconscious by dowsing with a pendulum. The pengulum can give us aanswers from the collective unconcious.

The pendulum and dowsing rods are very ancient tools for accessing unconsious knowledge. Our grandparents used dowsing rods to find underground wells.



What will you learn in this workshop?



· How to cleans your mind before using the pendulum.

· How to use the pendulum without manipulating it.

· When and how to use a pendulum.

· Testing a medicine sample with a pendulum.

How to measure your energy level with a pengulum.



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ORGANISATION AND INFORMATION



If you want us to arrange a Family Consultation you can get info from 0536 475 23 71.



Family consultations are held every Sunday and we post details of it on this page. If we do not have a date for the other seminars but you are still keen to try them please ontact us.



If you want further info please send a message to halisebaydar@gmail.com .



MESSAGES FROM THESE WHO HAVE ATTENDED OUR WORKSHOPS.



To respect the privacy of those concerned I can not tell anyone's story here. However, I have a right to explain about my family consultation and I am going to try tell it here.



My mother is Jewish and my fother is Muslim, both of them are 77 years old. They have known each other for fifty years and married for 44 of those years. From my childhood from now, my mother has been an extremely strict woman and she did all she could to dominate my father. Almost every day in our house was full of anger and argumants.



In my consultation becausmy mother loved her father a lot, she was not able to accept his eventual death. As a result of this, she remained permanently angry towards his memory. Afterwards, the woman representing my mother in the consultation acted just like she was beating her father, she turned to the man role playing my father, looked at his face and she said; " Ah, I have got a husband!" Of course, there were so many other problems in my family and the family members explained lots of secrets but this part Ihave just explained was the most emotionally fraught part of the conversation.



My dear mother hadn't seen my dear father as a husband. How could she be a wife of a man who she put in the place of her father?



About one month after the consultation my parents stayed in my house for three days. For the first time, heard her say; " Children, your father is a very good person and he has been looking after me really well. "



I leave the rest to your imagination.




WHAT IS THE FAMİLY CONSULTATION?



Family Consultation both pschological and energy based therapy. It was developed 20 years ago by a German pschologist Bert Hellinger.



Hellingar was using pscholoanalysis, pschodrama and other pschological techniques to help people whwn he went to Africa as a missionary, where he lived for a long time among the locaal people.



During that time, he observed how powerful the energetic therapy system used by the native people was. He then combined the local African system with his own psychological methods to create Family Consultation.



Family Consultation has been used all around the world with very succesful results. To date Halise Baydar has performed over 800 Family Concultation in Berlin as an independent therapist.



One of the most common and intractable problems in the last 100 years has been a sense of alienation and loneliness. This can come from our family backround or our country. This feeling of alienation can be very painful and can destroy both our enjoyment of life and peace of mind. We try to fill this feeling of emtiness in many ways, such as with alcohol,smoking etc…Other ways of coping with this feeling include listening music, travel and learning new languages. However the effects of all these activities will not be lasting we will feel the same inner emptiness and spiritual unhappiness.



With the help of Family Consultation you will learn that you are surrounded by something bigger than you. In order to be able to feel this you must firstly understand where you are oming from, you should feel comfortable as a son or daughter of your family. When you feel like this, you can move to the next step. And you feel at peace with your cultural backround you will come to terms with the spirit underlying all humanity.



Central Theory



The family, which is so important to a present life, sets the course for one's spiritual development. This effect is not only a result of our childhood experiences but is also genetic, for our genetic make up has a strong influence on our spiritual nature. The family is an organic antity and family members, even after they have died, continue the exert a powerful effect on energy of the family.



In these workshops the therapist needs only one family member to be ready in order to see the whole picture.



If family members are able to play their natural roles the family can function naturally. It also requires family members to recognise the vital part they play in the larger family entity.



Bert Hellinger found that certain rules and conditions regulate family life all around the world. However these conditions although these might seem very out dated, will help you to understand the fuller picture.





Practice



Family Consultation needs reasonable number of people to be effective. The client seeking help the therapist and the other participants all work together. Also, the client works passively in these workshops.



Firstly, the client talks about his / her problem to the therapist: the problem could range from relationships in the family, suicide, accidents, arguments or very serious sicknesses. Secondly, the therapist requests the family backround of the client and learns how many people are involved. In the next step the client chooses other participants to take the place of members of his / her family. These representatives of family members are disposed around the room according to client's instructions. Afterwards the client withdrams to a corner of the room and observes the consultation as it develops.



It has been shown in hundreds of thousands of Family Consultation that those chosen to play the part of family members feel, think and behave like those people. They even begin to resemble them. This happens even when these representatives have no conscious knowledge of the family members whose role they are playing. It is not understood how it happens but scientists are investigating the phenomenon.



During the consultation the therapists questions the family representatives ask how they feel in their roles. Both the feedback from these representatives and the observations of therapist allow the therapist to intervene and redirect the interaction patterns so that a more positive out come is realised.



The results of Family Consultation are not merely confined to the client but also have an immediate effect on other members of the family, where ever they may be. Again and again we find this result to be true.



However we can't predict what the outcome of the therapy will be. It is our observation that the most important factor for success is the client's open mind and honesty. If you sincerely want to change half the battle is already won. The other half can be achieved by a family consultation. Family Consultation is not a miracle cure and the client may also need further advice and professional help.



Halise Baydar will set up cconsultations for individuals at their request.





























THERAPIST HALİSE BAYDAR



Halise Baydar, who has been giving family therapy in Berlin and İstanbul, lived in Germany from the age of sixteen. She became depressed in 1980 and started to research Freudian Psychoanalysis and studied it for three years. During that time, she met Annemary Assman, who worked with the body's energy fields and Halise Baydar started her first spiritual journey with her.



During the week, she tried to understand herself using the Freudian framework, at the weekends, she contiuned energy workshops with Assman. After that, she went to Maria Schmejkall, who was giving Jungian therapy for two years. The more she looked inside herself, the more she wanted to learn and she attended energy seminars from various teachers. During this training she was introduced to Shamanism and started to use it. Since then, she realised that it is not always possible to find solutions in your mind. Than, she was trained in NLP by Dr. Stolzenburg for a year.



She worked with the therapist Dr. Dorothea Stumfeld who was working with the emotional body. Since that time, she has built a very close relationship with her.



Multiple energy practioner Osho's student Michael Bannert was also one of her teachers. After all of this training, her eyes were opened to the spritüel dimensions of life.



She met Malis Grzmel Lauley who was famous therapist in Berlin eleven years ago and she found what she was looking for. This method of therapy completely changed her life and she decided to study and practice it.



She studied Family Consultation for three years with Malis and also took a year training in psychiatric.



As a therapist who has been working with art for so long, she decided to help other people and share her 23 years of experience.



Halise Baydar thanks and pays her respects to Germany where she found such a warm wellcome and her own healing. Also to all her teachers and Bert Hellinger who developed this method.































MONEY SEMINAR



Up to the present time, I have worked with many people on the subject of money, most of them come back and tell me they have found new jobs and survived their financial problems. Money is very important for all of us. Therefore, I give a full day seminar about money energy alone.



The subjects we will work on;



· Money is an energy such as love, hate, passion, anger…



· Why do we live with limited things altough everything is common in the world?



· Why some people prefer limited lives?



· When we lead our energy, the energy goes that way.



· Money has got an order just like other things in the world. If you contravene this order, money can't come to you.



For example; even if you have money, you don't pay off your debt but new clothes for yourself instead.



Based on these themes we aim to cancel all such blockages in our money energy.



Seminar price:



























































WHAT ARE WE DOING IN OUR CLOSE RELATIONSHIP?



There are two sorts of people.



· The first of them is always taking.

· The second of them is always giving.



Neither sort is healthy.



We will work on second type of people on this seminar .



These people are;



· Give too much to be able to keep their partners. Although they feel very tired, they do not notice their feeling.



· They live with a partner who isn't interested in them and hasn't loved them for years. Also these people hope to change their partner's personality.



· They take all the responsibility to keep their partner safe.



· They try to find jobs for their partners.



· They pay their partners bills and debts.



· They have appointments for their partners from a pschoterapists.



· Because these people couldn't get enough love in childhood, they find people who need love all the time.



· They find people who behave well and take responsibility for themselves boring.



· They have problems with their self confidence. They either feel like they have to fight for love or else to give everything they have to get attantion from their partner.



· Because of their fears they help their partners too much to keep control in their own hands.



· They try to control the relationship in many ways.



For these reasons, I wish to assemble a therapy group aiming to understand what sort of relationships you have able to notice behaviour and trying to find solutions.





LET'S WORK WITH OUR EXTRA KILOS AND MAKE PEACE WITH THEM!



I wonder, how many Mondays we start a diet programme with a lot of hopes or we went to the doctor, we listened to people's advice?



Result? We came back to the same place where we started, sometimes worse! We get angry because we have no self control.



What can't we manage?



We say let's look aat the problem in a different way. Let's make peace with those kilos, love them and then let's accept ourselves.



Why do we eat? Waht sort of feeling are we trying trying to suppress?



Now, after Germany therapist Halise Baydar is starting " Let's make peace with our kilos " group therapists in İstanbul.



People with Bulimia and Anorexsia can join this programme.



From 9th March 2005, every Wednesday between 11:00 to 13:00.



Important Note This is not a diet programme.


PENDULUM TRAINING



We can begin to tap into knowledge that was previously unconscious by dowsing with a pendulum.



Because the pengulum can give us answers from the collective unconcious.

The pendulum and dowsing rods are very ancient tools for accessing unconsious knowledge. Our grandparents used dowsing rods to find underground wells.



What will you learn in this workshop?



How to clean your mind before using the pendulum.


How to use the pendulum without manipulating it.


When and how to use a pendulum


Testing a medicine sample with a pendulum.
How to measure your energy level with a pengulum.



How can you detect if your ying yang energy is balanced with the pendulum?


If one your internal organ's energy is law, it can affect other organs in the same way.


How can it test how much your organ works.


How can you make your organs a hundred percent efficiently with the pendulum, OM line or energy.


How can you balance yourself with the pengulum.


How can you expel negative energy from your body with the pengulum.


For example, you have been working with the computer all day long and its magnetic field affects you, has a detrimental effect on your blood pressure. How can you disippate this negative energy with a pendulum.


How can you discover underground attacs with the pendulum? ( For example underground water routs affect our body negatively )


Also, we will work on chakras and there will be a lot of suprises in a day.




Please, book your place two days in advance.


FELDENKRAIS TECHNİQUE

Dr. Moshe Feldenkrais pioneered a technique of phsical and mental self knowledge based on understanding and using your body in the right way. Your body is important in this system. It has beneficial effects on liveliness and activity for people of any age and these effects can continue indefinitely.



Because the physical movements in this system are smooth and unforced we can learn how spiritual and emotional capasity affect our body movements. As a result of these healing body movements we can build a healthy and balanced body and higher mind. The important point is to see the human being as a unified whole.



With this method;



Your concentration and mental power will increase.


It increases your blood circulation and causes you to look younger.


It increases your body feelings, communication and psychological learning ability.


It causes productive and easy learning.


It develops mental flexibility and creativity.


Makes your personality open up and helps you to develop more sensitive relationships with people around you.


It relaxes your muscles, unlocks your mental and physical blockages.




How Feldenkrais is learned?



There are two working methods which are based on gentle movements.



Noticing with the movement method si generally used a group. During the lesson, the teacher gives orders with words and asks students to do some spesific movements. Students can understand their bodily life and emotions with this method. This is similar to how babies start to learn crawling, walking or speaking. These movements are very slow, smooth and they need they need very small amount of effort. The movement method has got some similarities with Asian teaching methods taichi or like yoga.



The proccessing complete method is based on a teacher and a student. The teacher works with his / her student individually.



He makes his student move with very gentle and small movements.



Also, the teacher shows his student how to use his body and mind more effectively by using his hands and makes the student lies on a table just like masaj table during the activity.



KIRSTEN ETTRICH



He graduated German Filologi. He finished a masters degree in German and French. He gained a diploma based on the Italian and French economies in Münich. Between 1997 – 2002 he worked as a teacher in İstanbul for DAAD.



Between 1994 – 2000 he undertook Feldenkrais Therapy training and he became a practitioner. Since 1999 he has been giving Feldenkrais courses.



Also, he has been giving the same method individually.


HOW CAN I JOIN?



Active Participation



It means, ıf you want Family Consultation. 190 YTL



Passive Participation



The people who don't have any idea about Family Consultation.



If you want to join 40 YTL is charged for one session. This price will be refunded if you want to be an active participant next time.



%18 KDV is added to this price.



Adress



Halise Baydar Personal Development Centre

Sanatçılar Sitesi No:38 B1 Blok

3.floor. Flat number:13 Post Code: 34457

Tarabya / İstanbul



Time Frame



The session lasts a whole day at the weekends.

If you join for one day you are accepted the next day.

Work starts at 10:00 in the morning and finishes about 18:00.

It's important not to be late.

It's necessary to undertake the therapy all day long.



Lunch Break



There is a lunch break but there is no food. Tea and coffee is free. If you like you can bring your lunch with you.



Clothes



It is adviced to come in comfortable clothes and also to bring thick socks and flip flops.

MESSAGES FROM THESE WHO HAVE ATTENDED OUR WORKSHOPS.

Family Consultation both pschological and energy based therapy. It was developed 20 years ago by a German pschologist Bert Hellinger.

Hellinger was using pscholoanalysis, pschodrama and other pschological techniques to help people whwn he went to Africa as a missionary, where he lived for a long time among the locaal people.



During that time, he observed how powerful the energetic therapy system used by the native people was. He then combined the local African system with his own psychological methods to create Family Consultation.





Central Theory



The family, which is so important to a present life, sets the course for one's spiritual development. This effect is not only a result of our childhood experiences but is also genetic, for our genetic make up has a strong influence on our spiritual nature. The family is an organic antity and family members, even after they have died, continue the exert a powerful effect on energy of the family.



In these workshops the therapist needs only one family member to be ready in order to see the whole picture.



If family members are able to play their natural roles the family can function naturally. It also requires family members to recognise the vital part they play in the larger family entity.



Bert Hellinger found that certain rules and conditions regulate family life all around the world. However these conditions although these might seem very out dated, will help you to understand the fuller picture.



Practice



Family Consultation needs a large group of participants. Especially, ıf we think about large families in our country, we need at least 15 participants.



People, who are in the group, represent their immediate family members one by one.



The person, who wants his family consultation in the group, stands up and gives roles to each participant even if some of these members are deaddue to miscarriaging ao abortion.



For example, Mr. Brown has a family of five people. He is the middle child in the family. Between him and his sister there is another sister who is dead; also between him and his brother there was one abortion and one miscarriage. There are a total of eight people to be assigned roles in this family.



Mr. Brown comes and gives roles to each person, even roles for the dead ones. He chooses a person to take his place as well. He asks each of the participants; " Do you want to be my…?" ( mother, father, sister…) Participants have a right to refuse these roles. The people who accept give their hands to the client for family consultation and come to the middle of the room. Mr. Brown sets them where he wants and starts to watch the consultation from outside the group.



The person who leads the family consultation comes into the middle and asks how they feel. From that moment the group members strart to contact the energy bodies of the representatives and feel just like them.



Some of them say pleasant things, others may say very uncomfortable things or have physical problems.



However, ıf one of your parents lost one of their parents before they were a teenager the grandparents are given a role as well. If someone grew up with a step mother or father and these people important for them they get a role in the family group, too.



If there is a problem in the family group leader tries to resolve the underlying blockage by means of some rituals.



One of the most important rituals is bowing with respect in front of the person who is not loved or hated.



I can hear that you are saying; " It's very easy!" but the truth is not like that. Those who get roles there, don't know eachother and sometimes refuse to bow.



In this case the leader has an extra responsibility. The leader who is an expert causes participants to bow to eachother in different ways. When this finishes the participants relax and express this feeling with spontaneus behaviour; for example they may cry, breath deeply or smile…



In this situation you may think; " Do I really want a family consultation?"



However you sould know that, even being and getting a role in the family consultation is important. Somehow the roles wich participants get tend to reflect similar problems in their own families. Therefore both the represented and representetives get healing.



Another way of explaining this is even if you don't go to family consultation to get roles in other people's consultations, you get healing. Even, participants who don't choose to be in the consultation but simply sit down in the corner can get healing.



Those people who have taken part in this system find they have better relationships with their families. Most such participants report this healing affects different parts of their lives positively.



An example:



To respect the privacy of those concerned I can not tell anyone's story here. However, I have a right to explain about my family consultation and I am going to try tell it here.



My mother is Jewish and my fother is Muslim, both of them are 77 years old. They have known each other for fifty years and married for 44 of those years. From my childhood from now, my mother has been an extremely strict woman and she did all she could to dominate my father. Almost every day in our house was full of anger and argumants.



In my consultation becausmy mother loved her father a lot, she was not able to accept his eventual death. As a result of this, she remained permanently angry towards his memory. Afterwards, the woman representing my mother in the consultation acted just like she was beating her father, she turned to the man role playing my father, looked at his face and she said; " Ah, I have got a husband!" Of course, there were so many other problems in my family and the family members explained lots of secrets but this part Ihave just explained was the most emotionally fraught part of the conversation.



My dear mother hadn't seen my dear father as a husband. How could she be a wife of a man who she put in the place of her father?



About one month after the consultation my parents stayed in my house for three days. For the first time, heard her say; " Children, your father is a very good person and he has been looking after me really well. "



I leave the rest to your imagination.

YOL TARİFİ / DIRECTIONS

Levent'ten Sarıyer'e dümdüz devam ediyorsunuz

From Levent go directly towards Sarıyer

Sarıyer Tarabya ayrımından Tarabya tarafına dönüyorsunuz.

Where the road forks Sarıyer and Tarabya turn towards Tarabya

Sol kolda sanatçılar sitesi tabelasını takip edip….

Follow signs for Sanatçılar Sitesi on the left hand side and turn into the site. To enter the site take the first turn to the left.

Sağa dönünce yol sola kıvrılarak….

Turn right in the site and then follow the road as it goes down to the left. On the left hand side there is a food store and some other shops. When the road turns again to the left keep your eyes open for a parking place. The entrance to the building is in your left.

Asansörden inip sola dönünce…

As you leave the lift turn to the left and ring the door bellon the right and welcome!